Clara Hensley
Psychotherapist · Founder
Many people put off therapy because they don’t know what to expect. Will I have to talk about my childhood? Will I cry? Will I say the wrong thing? The good news is that a first session is mostly about getting to know each other.
It starts with a conversation
Your therapist will usually ask what brings you to therapy now, a little about your life and background, and what you hope might be different. You can answer in your own words, and you can say “I don’t know” — that is a perfectly good answer.
They will also explain how they work: confidentiality and its limits, how often you might meet, and how you can get in touch between sessions if needed.
You don’t need the right words before you begin. Finding them is part of the work.
You’re also checking the fit
A first session is a chance for you to notice how it feels to talk with this person. Feeling comfortable with your therapist matters. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s okay to say so, or to try someone else.
Bring any questions — about fees, approach, or what therapy can and can’t offer.
Share as much or as little as you like.
Notice how you feel afterwards. Tired, relieved or unsettled are all common.
General information only — this article isn’t a substitute for professional advice. If you’re struggling, speak with a qualified professional. In an emergency, call your local emergency number.
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